A few days ago, it was rumoured that Precious Jones and husband 2Shotz are reportedly separated due to domestic violence.
To clarify the situation Precious Jone granted Linda Ikeji an exclusive interview where she gave the correct account of what transpired between her and 2Shotz.
According Jones from he interview 2Shotz has been a loving and caring husband until things turned awry.
Here’s the exclusive interview with Precious Jones...after the cut...
LIB: So you married rapper 2shotz in April 2013 after a whirlwind romance?
Precious: Yes!
LIB: How did your husband actually treat you? Did you feel controlled by him?
Precious: Erm, at first he didn’t. He was cool.
Like he was all lovey dovey and it was good basically. I don’t know what
happened along the line. I don’t want to make excuses for him. I
understood that he was going through a lot, He is the man and it is my
job to submit, to be submissive, obedient and whatever. This I tried my
best to do but I feel like…. I don’t know how to put it, but basically,
you know the way I’m always travelling back – forth and with my degree
and everything. I don’t know if that kind of intimidated him or he was
just angry at the fact that I had these accomplishments or something
like that.
LIB: Are you saying that he was possibly affected by you being more successful?
Precious: Like I said, You can’t say I’m more
successful. If we are married, we are one. If I’m successful, then he’s
successful and vice versa. So yeah. I don’t know the root of the whole
problem. I don’t know if it’s distance because that’s what a lot of
people are telling me. But I know a lot of couples that are living
abroad, as in their wives are abroad, husbands in Nigeria or wherever
and they are making it work. With Technology these days (Skype, Viber,
WhatsApp), we have a lot of means to communicate with each other, so
that shouldn’t really be a problem. I explained to him at the start,
that you know we are going to go through a lot of tight times, it’s
going to be difficult because I want to further my education, masters
and all. You know in Nigeria, the competition is so high, you can’t go
with an ordinary bachelor’s degree and get a good Job. You need to
package yourself seriously so that companies will take you seriously. I
was in Nigeria with just a Bachelor’s Degree and I know the kind of Jobs
I was being offered. That’s not what I want. I’m a very ambitious
person. I don’t want to say I’m a career woman but l’m very ambitious. I
know what I went through to go through four years of college and come
out successfully with a little boy. Taking care of my boy/son that I had
before I got married. I know what I went through and I’m doing this for
him and my kids as well. So basically, I explained to him from the
start that we are going to go through it for a couple of years but it’s
all going to be for the betterment of the family, for the Good and he
agreed to this. All of a sudden, it flipped, he changed and the story
became that I was trying to take his baby away from him. That I planned
to take his child away, I didn’t want him to be with his child. I wanted
to take her away like I took my son from his father.
As a matter of fact however, my son and his father are
best of friends. Even my son’s father is my friend still. So I really
can’t pinpoint the cause of the whole drama but… I know it’s probably
because of other reasons I can’t put my finger on. Everything went sour
at a point. I don’t know when or where and I tried my best to contain
it. I’m not saying I’m perfect. I have my faults and I was able to
always admit them but he (2shotz) is stubborn, he’ll never apologise or
take responsibility. His excuse is that he’s older than me, so he has
more experience and can never do any wrong. Apparently with the Nigerian
Culture, the woman has to be the one apologizing for the rest of her
life and (laughs) at the start, I did that and he got spoilt. He felt he
could do this, hit me and I’ll be the one to beg him.
LIB: If you recall, in 2013, you defended your
husband when one of his exes BBA rep Beverly Osu accused him of abuse?
How did you feel when all this unfolded?
Precious: (Laughs) So this probably wasn’t the
response that I’ll have given two years ago so I really don’t have
anything to say to that. I don’t have anything to say about that. This
is like not my business. It’s not an issue I want to go into. I really
don’t know anything about that.
LIB: Can we now address him as your ‘ex-partner’ ?
Precious: No.. We are not divorced or nothing. I am still married and all.
LIB: You mentioned your partner’s problem with
temper/stress especially as he was losing fame & his career was
suffering. How exactly did it affect your relationship with him? Did he
really blame you?
Precious: Well according to what the prophet or
pastors he was visiting told him, Yes. Apparently, I don’t know how true
it is but he said that they mentioned it to him.
I was just thinking, like, how can I be the person that
wants to bring you down! At the end of the day, you are my husband. If
you’re famous and your career is booming, so is mine.
LIB: Is He a very religious kind of person? What religion does he practise?
Precious: He’s a Christian. We are all Christians.
But you know in life, when you go through some things, you need to seek
spiritual help. You need to seek more help. So I think in the course of
doing that, he probably got blindfolded by whatever prophet he was
going to visit.
LIB: Concerning the physical abuse, from the
Makeup issue to the ‘furniture’ wife demand, did you discuss this while
dating? Did he ever have any problem with you before you got married?
Something you might have ignored?
Precious: Absolutely not. Yes I know a lot of
people say violent men show signs and women tend to ignore it but until
you’re in it, then you cant really say much about it. I’m not a victim
of violence, physical abuse. I don’t want to be tagged as that. Life
just happened to me.
At the start, when he first met me, I didn’t hide
anything. I don’t know how to lie. He knew I had a son, everything about
me was as plain as an open book. When he met me for the first time, I
had a full face of make-up. He liked the fact I was wearing what ever I
was wearing. He liked the way I dressed, the way I talked, the way I
was. So I don’t know where the whole makeup thing came in but I
appreciated the fact that he had opinions about my looks. I was trying
to bring down whatever makeup I was doing – to suit him. It’s not like I
ignored him. I did everything I could. Even before heading out from
home, I’ll go to him asking if he liked the way I looked, so that he
could give his opinion. It’s not like I wasn’t making any effort to
please him. I actually did everything I could. This was the guy I wanted
to spend the rest of my life with. I was trying to make him happy. That
particular day he flipped out on me in the car, I don’t know what
happened. He just flipped. When you go through stress, frustration and
all that, the next person to pick on and transfer the aggression is
probably someone close to you. So I guess I was the target. As a Man,
when you go through some stuff, you want to flip out, but there was no
one to flip out on. I don’t want to say I was readily available for him
to transfer his aggression on. It’s not like he’s a bad person. This was
one of the reasons I didn’t want the story to initially cone out. It’s
not because of previous relationships or someone saying he hit them or
whatever. I don’t want him to suffer the whole bashing. When I first met
him, he was a good person. It’s just things that are going on in his
life. I don’t know if it’s spiritual, I really can’t put my finger on
it. Even when he’ll hit me or do some strange things, I’ll call his name
and he wouldn’t be there. I’ll look into his eyes and he’s not there.
So I felt its way beyond the physical.
LIB: He spent your money recklessly. Care to give an insight into this?
Precious: OK.. To me, it was our money. I wouldn’t
say I didn’t allow him. I did let him. It wasn’t something that he went
behind my back to do. I was aware. But let Me just put this out there, –
He did give me when he had. It wasn’t only me bringing all the time. It
wasn’t just me. It’s probably one of the reasons he was angry, when he
wasn’t able to bring at all anymore. But moving on from that, he would
ask me for different things. He was my Husband. My Money is his money.
So that’s about it.
LIB: The day he mistakenly hit your daughter.. Was
that when you finally gathered the remarkable courage to walk away? Or
something else made you walk away?
Precious: I just.. I saw a pattern. I saw what was
going to happen in Six months, one year if I stayed. So I just decided
then that I was going to leave. I never, ever believed in a million
years that I would ever be going through something like this. You know
you watch this in the movies.. You see other people saying their stories
but never ever expect it. If you told me like the last two months ago
that I would go through this, that I would leave him, I probably won’t
believe you. If you told me in the last three years that I would ever
experience a man putting his hands on me, I would tell you that you’re a
liar. I never ever witnessed something like that in my life. I didn’t
know what to do, what to say or who to tell. I never told anyone until
this came out a couple of days ago.
LIB: He also threatened to shut you up with his powerful contacts? Any idea who these powerful people are?
Precious: I haven’t got a clue. I don’t know who they are. He was probably just bluffing or whatever, but I didn’t want to take a chance.
LIB: Are your family members now aware of what is going on?
Precious: Yeah. They weren’t aware first but my
siblings now know. I had to tell them before they found out online. They
are not really into blogs and whatever, so I had to tell them before
their friends send them links. But my Dad, as of now, I think is still
unaware. I can’t find the courage of telling him something like this,
because I feel like I failed them again. I had my Son at such a young
age and they stuck with me through that. So me going to tell him that
this happened, makes me feel like it would crush him. My Mum knows
though.
LIB: Don’t you feel your Dad will be more happy knowing you’re alive, irrespective of any other thing?
Precious: I Know, I understand that. I will
definitely tell him eventually. I just have to sum up the courage to set
up a meeting to tell him.
LIB: What future plans do you have for yourself? Do you plan to Reconcile with your husband? What next?
Precious: At this stage, I’m just trying to focus
on my Masters. I’m going to focus on my career as a whole. I want to
start up my business in Nigeria. Everything was previously put on hold
because I didn’t want to bruise anyone’s ego. I didn’t want to make
anyone feel intimidated. I just want to focus on my kids. I’m going to
stick with God at this stage because only him can direct my path. That’s
basically what I’m going to do now.
Source: Syeb
